Skip navigation! Sex is one of the basic pleasures of life, but the orgasm is anything but simple — especially for people with vaginas. The complexity begins with your anatomy.
If you took sex ed at school, you probably learned all about pregnancy and STIsbut there's a pretty good chance that your teacher never once uttered the word "orgasm. So let's actually talk about orgasms for a sec. An orgasm is what happens when a person reaches the height of sexual excitement.
But they exist, and with a little awareness and attention, you can get the Os you deserve, from the fireworks-on-display kind to the calm oh-my-gods. When you find yourself missing out on the Big O, there are three likely culprits: expectations, communication, and method. And alongside all of that, experimenting is required.
We all know that orgasms are great, you can enjoy them alone or with friend s and they're often the end goal for sexy-time. But what actually is an orgasm? And most importantly, how can we have bigger, better, faster and more of them?
They are often associated with other involuntary actions, including muscular spasms in multiple areas of the body, a general euphoric sensation and, frequently, body movements and vocalizations. Human orgasms usually result from physical sexual stimulation of the penis in males typically accompanying ejaculation and of the clitoris in females. The health effects surrounding the human orgasm are diverse.
But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapistto help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous.
Anorgasmia is the medical term for regular difficulty reaching orgasm after ample sexual stimulation. The lack of orgasms distresses you or interferes with your relationship with your partner. Orgasms vary in intensity, and women vary in the frequency of their orgasms and the amount of stimulation needed to trigger an orgasm.
It's the only thing that feels better than diving into a cool lake on a sweltering day, biting into a juicy cheeseburger when you're starving, or even getting your wallet back after losing it on vacation abroad. An orgasm is that good. Which is why it bites that it doesn't happen more often. According to several major surveys, only 25 percent of women always climax during sex with a partner.
When you first become sexually active, it can be hard to tell if you're orgasming. Simply put, an orgasm is an intensely pleasurable physical response that results from the release of tension built up during sexual stimulation. There are some physical signals that can clue you in if you're on your way too.
The clitoral orgasm is the most common. Vaginal orgasm means that a woman can reach orgasm without clitoral stimulation. Most often this is through vaginal penetration. The latest research, however, suggests that vaginal orgasm is nothing but a myth since the vagina itself is anatomically incapable of producing an orgasm.